Update: I found my girlfriend of 8 years' cheating sex tape. Her family, close friends, and cybercrime police are involved.

So, it's been over 2 weeks since my last post where I got proceeded to get my ass handed to me. I'm not complaining, you guys were right. I do need to leave and start living my own life.

A LOT has actually happened since then but thankfully most of it's boring, sad and disappointing.

Got myself a behavioral therapist which something I should've done a long time ago. I have different problems unrelated to this that Jaime did help me through most but a professional really does make a difference. Gave me a lot of hard questions, important questions, that forced me to put my life into perspective. It was liberating experience.

Finally talked with my own family about this. For context, I'm not very close with my actual parents, particularly with my father. Broken home and all that. I consider my Aunts, my father's 4 sisters, who stepped up to take care of me as a child to be my real parents. So if I mention family, I really mean just my 4 Moms.

Turns out, they were more involved than I thought. Jaime talks to them, she loved talking with them about me and our relationship, they got closer for it too. She asked so many questions about me, what I liked, food, hobbies, what my childhood was like. She'd ask advice from them about so many things. What to do when I get pissy, how to get my ass moving, all that cute stuff.

Around a year ago when they noticed that I started acting positively when they played around with the topic of marriage, Jaime and my family started to get ready. 3 of them have families with at least 3 children each, so to help ease the accommodation, they saved money to pay for themselves and anything extra goes to the wedding, to us and whatever after.

They even talked about engagement rings. Calling them disappointed is an understatement.

With the bullshit happening now, they opted to give me half of what they saved for the marriage to help me out and also offered to take me back again which truly is a massive help. My biggest problem this whole time was a source of income. I didn't have a job lined up out of my city, still don't, and my savings are meager.

With all that settled, I gave my employer my resignation letter, cancelled my lease and have by the end of the month to sort my affairs. I'm leaving for good.

As for Jaime, I've gradually stepped out of whatever's been happening with her and around her.

Talked with her family or more like told them that I'm leaving. Gave them info about psychiatric hold and made them handle her appointments with her psychologist and whatever else she needs. It was a sad affair, really. I know it doesn't seem like it, especially with Alice & Julio making me stay and take care of Jaime, but this is a first time for all of us. They raised 4 great kids, their relationships are great and they even extended that to me even when they barely knew me. Jaime fucked up the worse and this isn't something anyone can expect anyone else to handle with ease and grace.

I mourned my lost of a potential family that I could've been proud to be with.

For the POS who filmed her?

I still haven't confronted her about it but Mike and Jackie shared what she told the police and how the investigation's going.

It was a Korean national she says she met on social media for a fling. She said they only fucked once but that was immediately shot down. The video showed 2 different, distinct rooms and got pressured to admit where it was in case they can get anything like CCTV, social media posts, log books, witnesses etc. and that they did. 1 hotel still had recordings that day, 2 hotels with log books containing names and dates, and their DMs. She didn't mention rape, blackmail, or drugs in play, only mild intoxication which was all obvious in the video apparently.

Everything but the recording was consented.

They were some possible routes to take in terms of damages but when a lawyer got contacted, it was pretty much dead on the water.

POS being a Korean national currently in Korea muddied the legal waters. They can do nothing else other than contact relevant Korean authorities, gather as much evidence and wait. But the lawyer wasn't confident anything might stick. As far as they know, they have no evidence that it was even POS who set up the cameras beyond that POS stayed the night before and the cameras are obviously long since gone. There are far too many angles POS can play to delay or even win any lawsuit that reaches him. It will be most likely expensive, drawn out, and with very little chance of winning. So they gave up that route.

POS is getting off scotch free.

Why'd Jaime do it?

I don't know.

Before, I didn't have the guts to ask her. Now it doesn't really matter. I'm not as exhausted as before and my mind's been clearer. I'm leaving for good regardless of why she did it. I can just walk straight out with no explanation or maybe leave a letter for her, thanking her for the wonderful time we spent together, the love we shared, and a final goodbye. I'm romantic like that.

Still, I've decided to handle this with as much grace as I can. I'll help when worse comes to worst, don't lay blame on myself or her family, and not even mount pressure on Jaime for ruining everything. Not for Jaime but for my own twisted sense of self-gratification that I did all what can be expected and more. I will leave with my back straight and nose held high.

Funnily enough, this did eventually show me how lucky I am despite everything.

Yes, the love of my life cheated on me and had the audacity to throw a tantrum over it, my future's looking a little bleak, I've found out so much repressed anxiety and anger from my shitty childhood. But I'm still doing pretty great.

I have family that loves me, friends that have my back, and despite her betrayal, brought the best out of me with wonderful memories along with it. I have nothing to be ashamed of, and can say with pride that I was a wonderful boyfriend.

Hopefully this will be my last update, if not, the next to be far more boring and less mouthy.