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posted to: r/AITAH
AITAH for telling my boyfriend I’ll break up with him if he doesn’t start wiping his butt?
TRIGGER WARNING: Homophobia and disgusting personal hygiene, fecal matter
I (26F) have been dating my boyfriend (27M) for almost a year. We moved in together three months ago, and for the most part, things have been fine, he’s funny, smart, we have good chemistry, and we share similar goals for the future.
That said, there’s been a problem. A really gross, ridiculous problem.
When we first moved in, I noticed that he never had toilet paper rolls in “his” bathroom (we have a two-bathroom setup and tend to use separate ones most of the time). I figured maybe he used wipes or something else. But then I started noticing smells. Like, awful smells. Sometimes his laundry would stink in a very specific way. I thought maybe it was just bad hygiene in general, so I brought it up.
He got really defensive and basically told me to “drop it.”
Eventually, after too many suspiciously stained boxers and just a level of funk no grown man should be walking around with, I asked him point blank: “Do you wipe after you poop?”
He shrugged and said, “Nah, wiping is kinda gay. Why would I touch my own ass?”
I thought he was joking. I laughed. He didn’t.
Turns out, he legitimately believes that wiping “makes you gay” and that “real men just let it fall out and go about their day.” I told him that’s not only stupid but also incredibly unhygienic and honestly, it’s making me feel physically sick to be near him sometimes.
He said I was being judgmental and that I should “accept him for who he is.” I told him I draw the line at poop. I said if he didn’t start wiping and taking basic hygiene seriously, I’d have to reconsider the relationship.
He’s now sulking and accusing me of being shallow, saying I’m “prioritizing societal expectations over true love.” He even texted me a link to a “men’s rights” subreddit post about “how wiping is emasculating.”
Now I’m wondering, AITA for threatening to break up with my boyfriend over something as “small” as wiping?
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Thoughts from the users:
Outrageous_Bag1722:
"How many times do we have to read about a woman questioning her relationship because the dude doesn’t wipe his own ass?! I distinctly remember one in particular (I can’t find the thread, sorry) where he had a “poop towel” by the toilet 🤢 This reeks (😉) of incel type stuff. Emasculating to wipe your butt after pooping? Good grief 🤦♀️. This is something we are taught when toddlers during potty training! He will likely get infections (if he doesn’t already), both skin and genital, could be spread to you too OP. I bet hand washing is beneath him as well… Regardless NTA and to echo others this is a red flag and would be smart to just bail. You don’t want to die on this shit hill."
ThunderKates_HO:
."NTA- 1. Gross. Super f'ing gross 2. Take the poor hygiene out of it, why would you want to be with a fragile bigot, who makes daily decisions around "not being gay"- like hearing him say that would be enough for me to bail"
PandaSpecialist7505:
"NTA!!! Hygiene has nothing to do with masculinity! E. coli, horrible odors, infections, and control issues are all on the line here, not “true love”! Get out now and don’t look back!"